5 Ways To Create A Legacy Of Leadership

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“All I ever wanted to do was save my kid…but the ‘my’ kept getting larger and larger”

Geoffrey Canada

Over the past few days, I’ve been In Savannah, Georgia where I was asked to speak at the National Youth-At-Risk Conference. One of the perks of the trip was sharing some time with fellow speaker Geoffrey Canada, founder of the Harlem Children’s Zone.

In our conversation we immediately connected as he learned of my work developing programs throughout the years for children, fathers and families in NYC.

The conversation shifted to this question…What type of legacy are you living today?

LEGACIES ARE CREATED BY LEADERS!

Ask yourself. What is your legacy right now?

If it was all over today, would you be proud of your legacy?

What would your kids, wife, community, colleagues, friends and families say your legacy is?

And most importantly, what would you say it is?

It starts with your WHY!

My early work with clients always starts with finding out what makes them come alive.

What are you passionate about? What is your WHY?

When you start with your WHY you create your own personal mission statement. This establishes a value system and ideal customer.

The next step is to create a living legacy so you can show up as the best version of yourself, wherever you are. Be the leader you want to become at home, at work and in the community!

Here are 5 Steps to creating a Legacy of Leadership:

  1. Vision- Know what matters. You can’t create a legacy and hand something down by accident (if so, it is usually a negative one). Until you have a clear vision of what you want your legacy to be, it will be tough to built it.
  2. Create Winning Habits- Great leaders have “non-negotiables” that they practice on a daily basis. Habits that enhance and support their value system. Drive your personal leadership vision into your life, business, and family by creating habits that support what’s most important.
  3. Connection- All great leaders influence lives through connection. This means spending quality time developing relationships at home, at work, in the community, and with yourself.
  4. Leave Your Comfort Zone– Research shows that in order to maximize performance we need a state of relative anxiety—a space where our stress levels are slightly higher than normal. This space is called “Optimal Anxiety,” and it’s just outside our comfort zone. Optimal anxiety is that place where your mental productivity and performance reach their peak
  5. Bring Value- Most successful people I know don’t think about being successful at all. They think about being of value. They know that when you bring value to a business, relationship, and community you enhance abundance and create reciprocity. (The more you give, the more you receive). The key is to convert value into behaviors that you can measure and manage. Values in action are the key to creating a legacy of leadership.

“Strive not be be a success, but rather to be of value”
Albert Einstein

Want To Be A Better Father This Year? A Picture Is Worth A Thousand Words

Want to become a better father?

Sometimes a picture is worth a thousand words.

In today’s world where work-life integration is difficult for many, I’ve been fortunate to have the best of both worlds. A career that incorporates the very thing I love most…Fatherhood….

The work with fathers and leaders around the country is an amazing and purposeful journey. An added benefit to this work is the ability to share some of my own experience as a father for them to relate to.

Here are a few pictures over the past year that highlight important fatherhood lessons:

1. Be Consistent- Show Up

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This is what me and my little man call our Friday Night Spot! On Fridays we stop by our favorite pizza shop and have a blast. By making this our special hangout, he looks forward to it and feels special.

Consistency and making your child feel special is important and helps with adjustment. Routines help our children understand what is coming next, so the world doesn’t feel like such a scary and unpredictable place. (warning- It could be fattening too)

2. Encourage and Support Them

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When my daughter was nominated for homecoming Queen, there was a lot of anxiety to go around. She tried to be cool and act as if she wasn’t nervous but as a father you know the “real deal.” We let her know that she is amazing and a winner no matter the outcome. The best moment came when I escorted her on to the field and she turned to me and said “Dad you’ve been treating me like a Queen all my life”

3. Have Fun and Laugh

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This was called the Toys R Us Takeover. Allowing your children to laugh and see the lighter side of you is important. By sharing this side with your children you actually help with their social and emotional development.

Research has shown that children who laugh more are healthier — they’re less likely to be depressed and may even have an increased resistance to illness or physical problems.

4. Teach Them What Gratitude and Service Looks Like

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There’s no better education than seeing the less fortunate first-hand. One way I teach gratitude is by bringing my children to feed and donate gifts to homeless families during the holidays.

Studies show that children who express gratitude through service reap concrete benefits, including greater life satisfaction and a better attitude about school. When children give their time and energy to help others, they’re less likely to take things like health, home and family for granted.

 5. Show Them The World

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Teach your children to follow their dreams and show them the world. They look up to you, so make sure your children know that anything is achievable, regardless of the current circumstances.

Do you have any pictures

depicting fatherhood that

you’d like to share?

How To Make Today The Best Day Of 2014

“Write It On Your Heart That Every Day Is The Best Day In The Year”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Today is the last day of 2014 and I couldn’t be more excited. Not because I’m looking forward to the New Years festivities tonight. I’m excited because I’m determined to make today the best day of 2014.

The end of the year inventory is already complete. I’ve written down the goals and dreams I will experience in 2015. These dreams are “goals with deadlines” to ensure that I’m tracking my success. The house has been cleaned, email emptied, clothes and toys organized and ready to be donated. This work has prepared me well for the New Year. But wait a minute 2015 is not here yet. We still have 18 hours left in 2014, so I’m determined to make today the best day of the year.

If you want to make today the best day of 2014, you can do so with two words…….. HERE AND NOW!

Some people get energized by where they are going. You can see them light up when they share their vision and goals. And some people get excited by how far they’ve come. Their story of overcoming hardships gives them confidence and courage. Both are good forms of motivation. However, I think the greatest feeling and source of motivation in the world is loving and appreciating where you are right, Here and Now. Not wishing you’re somewhere you’re not, but fully accepting where you are. In our presence—not the future or the past—is the gift of life. The best is not yet to come—it’s here.

Go out today determined to have the best day of the year. Don’t loose an entire day waiting for tomorrow. Start with gratitude and navigate the day in the HERE AND NOW.

Let’s celebrate Here and Now!

“Here And Now Is Where It Happens”

Looking To Achieve More in 2015? Time For A “New You”

Let’s Face It… New Year’s Resolutions SUCK!

Have you made New Year’s Resolutions only to be disappointed that you didn’t achieve your goals?

Have you promised yourself that you would:

Lose weight

Get organized

Quit smoking

Spend more time with the family

Sound familiar?  These are just a few of the most common New Year’s resolutions that were identified in a 2014 study by the University of Scranton.  The same research found that only 8% of people are successful in achieving their resolution. 

If you’re ready to start 2015 the right way then the “2015 – A New You” Personal and Professional Development program is for you! 

This revolutionary program is geared towards people who want more out of their life…  People who are tired of making resolutions without having the systems in place to help them achieve lasting success.

We already have some of the most powerful, confident and successful men and woman signed up. They have all achieved a great deal in life.
And despite their track record of success, all are ready for support to achieve a goal that seems “impossible” right now.
Do you know someone like this?

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Want To Be Happier? Take The 30 Day Challenge

Here is the challenge…

For the next 30 days, practice the 7 strategies below and see how it positively shifts your perspective and increases your happiness.  Here are a few strategies that will set you up for success:

  1. Start writing a journal– highlight your key successes throughout the day as well as what a successful day would look like. Once I started looking at success, I was drawn to success.
  2. Read Uplifting Information– I used to take the train every morning and read a book on my way to work.  Occasionally a newspaper will be sitting  around and I’ll always open up and read the sports section first. A friend once asked why I read the sports section first and I told him “when I wake up, I’d much rather read about mans accomplishments then mans failures.”  So, read a book or listen to a cd that inspires you and positively affects your spirit.
  3. Write a Gratitude List– Gratitude in my attitude always helps me with my day.  Sometimes the adversities in life are so acute, that they seem unbearable.  To change this outlook, sit down and take time to write down the things in your life that you appreciate, make you happy and are grateful for.  Whenever I write a gratitude list, my perspective usually changes for the positive.
  4. Smile and Laugh – its a biological fact that laughter boosts the immense system, releases endorphins and improves blood flow to the heart.  So laugh and smile more and if you can try and make someone else laugh and smile as well!
  5. Help Someone– Take on the responsibility of being a mentor or a coach.  Being of service to someone else often triggers the most rewarding and soul satisfying feelings inside. Helping others takes us outside of ourselves and our own motives.
  6. THANK YOU– Take time to visit, call or write someone and tell them thank you.  I take time to thank mentors, family members and friends for the positive influence they have had on me.  They appreciate it and you will feel good about doing it.
  7. Surround Yourself with Positive People– The people you spend the most time with are the ones that influence you the most!

You’ll be amazed at the results you get from practicing these principles for 30 straight days. “Change your perspective and you will change your reality”

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The 4 Keys To Increase Your Inner Paycheck

There is a big misconception held by companies and people that success leads to happiness.  I often hear people say things like “Once I get the ________ (raise, promotion, house, car, etc), I’ll be happy. This way of thinking couldn’t be further from the truth and actually prevents people from living life to the fullest. But did you know that this thought process can actually impact your paycheck?

Science and research has proven that fulfillment and happiness are key ingredients to a successful career. Optimism fuels performance and achievement which, in turn allows us to advance monetarily. The studies show that our brain is hardwired to perform at their best when they are in a positive mindset.  Its biological! Without getting all Mr. Goodbody on you, here are the facts:

  • When we feel optimistic about our future, dopamine and serotonin are released in our brains which in turn heightens our sense of well-being. This allow us to more rapidly organize new information and become more skilled at problem solving.
  • Conversely, when you focus on your problems it exhausts your energies and ability to work optimally. Low performing employees always lead to lower paychecks.

So it’s all about your inner paycheck. If you can create a life for yourself grounded in the things that make you happy it will lead to greater success.

Here are 4 keys to increase your inner paycheck:

  1. Keep Healthy– The most successful people understand the importance of keeping a healthy mind, body and spirit. Treat yourself to the gift of your own attention. Eat well, workout and meditate; they all increase optimal functioning.
  2. Stop Complaining- I knew a woman who always said she had issues. After we spoke a few times I asked her to slow down the pronunciation of the word ISSUE and break it down to IS U! Every time you complain, you reinforce a negative state of mind without offering a solution to the problem at hand. Instead, next time you feel frustrated, take a few deep breaths and try focusing on something positive.
  3. Journal- Take time every day to write down at least two positive experiences you had as well as gratitude. Include small moments of happiness and random acts of kindness. It is important you write it down so you can look back and remember all you have to be thankful for when life becomes difficult.
  4. Show Your Gratitude- Write a thank you card, pick up the phone, volunteer or send someone a book they would enjoy. One of the best ways to increase  happiness is by reaching out and helping others.

Happiness is the key ingredient to increasing your “Inner Paycheck” which will lead to success in all areas of your life.  If you allow yourself to feel positive, your brain will take care of the rest.  You will see increases in productivity, resiliency and problem solving which in turn will lead to greater opportunities. If increasing your pay grade is your goal start with increasing your inner paycheck.

Share some of the ways you increase your inner paycheck.

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