“Write It On Your Heart That Every Day Is The Best Day In The Year”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Today is the last day of 2014 and I couldn’t be more excited. Not because I’m looking forward to the New Years festivities tonight. I’m excited because I’m determined to make today the best day of 2014.
The end of the year inventory is already complete. I’ve written down the goals and dreams I will experience in 2015. These dreams are “goals with deadlines” to ensure that I’m tracking my success. The house has been cleaned, email emptied, clothes and toys organized and ready to be donated. This work has prepared me well for the New Year. But wait a minute 2015 is not here yet. We still have 18 hours left in 2014, so I’m determined to make today the best day of the year.
If you want to make today the best day of 2014, you can do so with two words…….. HERE AND NOW!
Some people get energized by where they are going. You can see them light up when they share their vision and goals. And some people get excited by how far they’ve come. Their story of overcoming hardships gives them confidence and courage. Both are good forms of motivation. However, I think the greatest feeling and source of motivation in the world is loving and appreciating where you are right, Here and Now. Not wishing you’re somewhere you’re not, but fully accepting where you are. In our presence—not the future or the past—is the gift of life. The best is not yet to come—it’s here.
Go out today determined to have the best day of the year. Don’t loose an entire day waiting for tomorrow. Start with gratitude and navigate the day in the HERE AND NOW.
Let’s celebrate Here and Now!
“Here And Now Is Where It Happens”
Here is the challenge…
For the next 30 days, practice the 7 strategies below and see how it positively shifts your perspective and increases your happiness. Here are a few strategies that will set you up for success:
- Start writing a journal– highlight your key successes throughout the day as well as what a successful day would look like. Once I started looking at success, I was drawn to success.
- Read Uplifting Information– I used to take the train every morning and read a book on my way to work. Occasionally a newspaper will be sitting around and I’ll always open up and read the sports section first. A friend once asked why I read the sports section first and I told him “when I wake up, I’d much rather read about mans accomplishments then mans failures.” So, read a book or listen to a cd that inspires you and positively affects your spirit.
- Write a Gratitude List– Gratitude in my attitude always helps me with my day. Sometimes the adversities in life are so acute, that they seem unbearable. To change this outlook, sit down and take time to write down the things in your life that you appreciate, make you happy and are grateful for. Whenever I write a gratitude list, my perspective usually changes for the positive.
- Smile and Laugh – its a biological fact that laughter boosts the immense system, releases endorphins and improves blood flow to the heart. So laugh and smile more and if you can try and make someone else laugh and smile as well!
- Help Someone– Take on the responsibility of being a mentor or a coach. Being of service to someone else often triggers the most rewarding and soul satisfying feelings inside. Helping others takes us outside of ourselves and our own motives.
- THANK YOU– Take time to visit, call or write someone and tell them thank you. I take time to thank mentors, family members and friends for the positive influence they have had on me. They appreciate it and you will feel good about doing it.
- Surround Yourself with Positive People– The people you spend the most time with are the ones that influence you the most!
You’ll be amazed at the results you get from practicing these principles for 30 straight days. “Change your perspective and you will change your reality”
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“Always dream and shoot higher than you know you can do. Do not bother just to be better than your contemporaries or predecessors. Try to be better than yourself.”
― William Faulkner
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Fatherhood is a huge responsibility with the greatest of rewards. As a father of three beautiful children and someone who works with fathers, I see the magic of fatherhood on a daily basis. I’ve come to realize that:
Fatherhood is leadership!
It is one of the highest forms of leadership. And just like leadership, fatherhood is not about a title or position. Fatherhood is an action and example of how one life can influence another.
Here are 5 of my favorite leadership quotes as it applies to fatherhood:
1. “Become the type of father that your children will follow voluntarily, even if you had no title or authority”
2. “Before you become a father, success is about growing yourself. When you become a father, success is all about growing others”
3. “A father will take his children where they want to go. A great father will take his children where they don’t necessarily want to go, but need to be”
4. “Great fathers are almost always great simplifiers who can cut through argument, debate, and doubt to offer a solution everybody can understand”
5. “Fathers inspire their children to dream more, learn more, do more and become more”
What does it mean to you?
There is a big misconception held by companies and people that success leads to happiness. I often hear people say things like “Once I get the ________ (raise, promotion, house, car, etc), I’ll be happy. This way of thinking couldn’t be further from the truth and actually prevents people from living life to the fullest. But did you know that this thought process can actually impact your paycheck?
Science and research has proven that fulfillment and happiness are key ingredients to a successful career. Optimism fuels performance and achievement which, in turn allows us to advance monetarily. The studies show that our brain is hardwired to perform at their best when they are in a positive mindset. Its biological! Without getting all Mr. Goodbody on you, here are the facts:
- When we feel optimistic about our future, dopamine and serotonin are released in our brains which in turn heightens our sense of well-being. This allow us to more rapidly organize new information and become more skilled at problem solving.
- Conversely, when you focus on your problems it exhausts your energies and ability to work optimally. Low performing employees always lead to lower paychecks.
So it’s all about your inner paycheck. If you can create a life for yourself grounded in the things that make you happy it will lead to greater success.
Here are 4 keys to increase your inner paycheck:
- Keep Healthy– The most successful people understand the importance of keeping a healthy mind, body and spirit. Treat yourself to the gift of your own attention. Eat well, workout and meditate; they all increase optimal functioning.
- Stop Complaining- I knew a woman who always said she had issues. After we spoke a few times I asked her to slow down the pronunciation of the word ISSUE and break it down to IS U! Every time you complain, you reinforce a negative state of mind without offering a solution to the problem at hand. Instead, next time you feel frustrated, take a few deep breaths and try focusing on something positive.
- Journal- Take time every day to write down at least two positive experiences you had as well as gratitude. Include small moments of happiness and random acts of kindness. It is important you write it down so you can look back and remember all you have to be thankful for when life becomes difficult.
- Show Your Gratitude- Write a thank you card, pick up the phone, volunteer or send someone a book they would enjoy. One of the best ways to increase happiness is by reaching out and helping others.
Happiness is the key ingredient to increasing your “Inner Paycheck” which will lead to success in all areas of your life. If you allow yourself to feel positive, your brain will take care of the rest. You will see increases in productivity, resiliency and problem solving which in turn will lead to greater opportunities. If increasing your pay grade is your goal start with increasing your inner paycheck.
Share some of the ways you increase your inner paycheck.
Have you ever reached a point in your life where:
You don’t wake up in the morning excited about the day ahead?
You’ve begun to totally ignore or forget the dreams you had for your life?
You seem to be surrounded by negative people who always bring your energy down?
You have low energy that prevents you from doing more of the things you love?
If any of these are true, there is a good possibility that either you’ve lost your purpose in life or never discovered it.
Recently I had an amazing conversation with a friend who asked me what my purpose was. She seemed pleasantly surprised with my answer. Our conversation took on a life of its own as we shared our experiences with finding a life of purpose. Continue reading “What Is Your Purpose? 5 Ways To Help Find Your Purpose”
Have you ever found yourself trying to perform an impossible juggling act between your work-life and home-life?
Ever spent your entire work day at the “top of your game,” only to be too tired to play games with your children when you get home?
Have you ever wondered how the person that seems to have it all is able to get work done, yet still have time for his family?
As a father of three wonderful children, I have also struggled with these same questions over the years. Continue reading “Work-Life Balance-7 Tips For The Productive Father”
Last week, at the end of a long day, my 12-year-old son turned to me and said the words that every father longs to hear:
“Dad, thanks; this was the greatest day of my life.”
You could only imagine the emotions I felt that day; feelings that could only be described as overwhelming happiness, validation, joy and love. All parents know that you may go a lifetime and not hear those words, so to hear them come from my son’s lips was a special moment. We had just left the NBA Draft in Brooklyn NY on the way back home to Queens and had a great night all around. Continue reading ““Dad This Was The Greatest Day Of My Life” 7 Tips On How To Have An Epic Day With Your Child”